My life has been good, and I am grateful; the last several years have also had an increasingly more serious essence around it. I am not convinced that this has anything to do with aging or the middle age period. This serious essence is a phenomenon of my life that I want to explore.

In last week’s column, I had set the intention to inject fun into what I am already involved in doing. I like the idea of multitasking around this; you will see an example in the next paragraph. If I have to eat dinner already, what is to stop me from inviting a friend to join me? With this notion or intention to make fun happen, I find that I must take the initiative and make it happen.

I have a lovely group of friends, some new, others lifelong, where we meet twice a month to help empower each other. We call it an “Empowerment” group, and a lovely benefit is that we enjoy the company of each other immensely. I decided that it may be fun to add a social dimension so I came up with the idea of a dinner party at my house. (This is my idea of fun, if I allow myself the time to do all that I need to do to make it the way that I want it to be. What I want is to set aside the time to have my house at its best, buy or pick flowers, and plan and cook a nice menu, just to name a few things.)

I will make a mental note to remember that this is my idea of fun, and that I can play during the preparation as well as the actual dinner. I also note that I must set up the situation to make it fun. I do this by being aware of the terms and conditions by which I need to make it a joyous occasion rather than a stressful or tense occasion. To make it as easy as could be I prepped or prepared the day before.

We all had a great time, and I felt so relaxed and happy. But I also felt meaning in the idea of bringing friends together and sharing our thoughts and ideas and aspirations.

Love,
Lorraine

This entry was posted by Lorraine Calhoun on June 11th, 2007 under Mid-Life with keywords .

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