Happiness is within each and every one of us and if we seek a happiness mindset daily, we can live with passion and purpose right now.

The first step to happiness is releasing from the need to control others. You can only control your reactions, not how others act or react. That realization is the ultimate control. It’s not about what happens in the world around you, it’s about how you interpret it. And you do have total control over that.

When you’re trying to control the outcome, you’re at the whim of everyone and everything around you to make you feel success or failure, fulfillment or devastation. So you become extremely attached to keeping things just the way you think they should be.
This is similar to “organizational entropy”, the phenomenon that takes place when an organization loses the ability to grow because they become too attached, fixed and rigid.

You experience that same degeneration when you become focused on results. All of your energy is spent defending how things are instead of discovering how things could be.
When you exercise your power to control your own interpretation, then you can detach from the outcome and stay flexible and relaxed. The outcome no longer has the power to throw you off course.

It is OK to feel like you want more control.

In fact, realizing that you do have those feelings is the important first step. Once you recognize and take responsibility for those feelings, you can then honor them and your own honesty and then make a conscious effort to release those feelings. It leads to some heavy introspection. Believe me, it is a POWERFUL process!

Next week we will focus on the power of your desire to be truly happy.

With warmth and joy,
Cara
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This entry was posted by Dr. Cara Alana on December 10th, 2007 under Abundance and Prosperity with keywords .