March 31st, 2008
Clear Vision of Love
Last week I shared with you a relationship wish list of my client, Kelly. She was a divorced mid-life woman who came out of her marriage disillusioned and confused. Her husband had one day come home and said he was not in love with her anymore. He filed for divorce.After awhile, well-meaning friends and family encouraged her to try online dating. After all, they insisted, it was safer than wandering the bar scene. The Internet did not pan out for Kelly. The men who were interested in her were not right and the men that she found attractive did not think she was right. She felt lower than ever when she I first met her. After a couple of months of coaching, a new Kelly started to emerge. What happened was she discovered the true and beautiful Kelly. She discovered her soul and began to listen to it.She started doing things for HERSELF. She made the time to play more golf and joined a nearby golf club. It was expensive and she did not really have the time, but she was committed to invest in herself and MAKE the time.After becoming crystal clear on exactly what she needs, wants and does not want in a relationship, she was energized to begin her journey to finding Mr. Right.You know what? With her intention in order, she started attracting men with many qualities on her list. There were a few Mr. Wrongs, but she was able to weed them out immediately. Bragger, out. Flirt, out. Not a golfer, out.Nineteen months after honing her list, she is dating Mr. Right. He is an accomplished golfer from a nearby club that she joined, divorced with grown kids, will be retiring in two years from a successful career, is 6’ exactly, handsome and kind. She introduced him to cooking and he introduced her to sailing. However, he does have pets; actually tropical fish and they are in a gorgeous aquarium in his living room. But, there are absolutely no deal breakers. They have been in a committed relationship for seven months now and are just starting to talk about marriage. This is from a woman who never wanted to get married again! Because Kelly knew what would truly fulfill her, she went into every potential relationship with a crystal clear vision and with her eyes wide open to what she yearned for and what she would absolutely not put up with. And you can too!To your fulfillment,Cara
