You are your own best authority, not someone else. My coaching & teaching empower your inner voice that always knows.

Sound obvious? Perhaps.

I can only speak for myself when I say that it has taken me awhile to learn to REALLY trust myself rather than look to some outer authority.

My first 25 years of life were all about living to please my dad. I must have been five years old when he let me know that I should become a veterinarian so I would be able to work with him and one day own my family’s animal hospital.

Even though my inner voice was always challenging this idea, step-by-step I did what was necessary to get into veterinary school. This caused me a great deal of inner turmoil that built up over the years until I could no longer ignore it. One week into my senior year, I dropped out of vet school to become a teacher.

The hardest day of my life was going home to tell my dad because I had to break his heart. Had I not gone through this experience, made this “mistake” of living out someone else’s dream for me, I don’t think I ever would have come to see this profound life lesson so clearly.

Facing the truth of what I had done with my life up to that point changed me deeply. A heavy burden was lifted and I felt a tremendous sense of freedom to be myself, no matter what challenge or adversity might cross my path.

Now I see the same thing happening all the time, people turning to others seeking their advice, guidance, expertise, doing exactly as they are told rather than listening to what they already know is best for them. I still catch myself falling into the trap because everything around us is constantly reminding us that someone else knows more than we do.

When any one of us has the courage to stand up for oneself in one’s own truth, authentically and with no need to prove anything to anyone, everyone else is empowered to be themselves. Now is as good a time as any to wake up and recognize what the wizard told Dorothy, “You always had it.”

Remember, you did, you do, and you always will know what is correct for you. Simple, yes. Easy, no. The more you do it, the more you’ll be able to catch yourself when you forget. I know because I am still learning this in my own life. If I can do it, so can you!

I’d love to hear from you. Please share your stories, thoughts, and questions with me.

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This entry was posted by Kristi on April 25th, 2008 under RYR Reinvention Team with keywords .

Your strengths that is.  What are your strengths?  What are you like at your best? This is an intriguing question in our problem focused society.  We are constantly attending to what is “broken” in order to “fix” it – whether it’s our relationships, health, career or finances.  We identify the things we do less well and strive to improve them, often becoming frustrated in the process.  I teach college classes and make a habit of asking my students “What went right this week?”  Invariably they have to think very hard and search their memories for a single instance of something that went well for them.  In contrast, if I ask “What went wrong this week?” they will immediately start listing, with great emotion, all the things that they perceived as wrong.  There is no thought required to list all the “wrongs”, it is where their mind goes automatically.  As a society we’ve been trained to focus on “what’s wrong” or what needs to be “fixed”  So here’s a radical idea–what if we consistently looked for the “right”?  What would happen if we notice what is working for us, acknowledge what we do best and then capitalize on those strengths?  What if we attached the same emotion to the “rights” as we do the “wrongs”?  Do you think that you would get more of what you focus on?  Let’s explore that concept starting with our opening question.  What are your strengths?  What are you like at your best?  Make a list of your top five strengths and check back next post to find out how to make them work for you. Let your light shine.Rachel 

 

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This entry was posted by Rachel Bellack on May 5th, 2008 under RYR Reinvention Team with keywords .

Do you know or have you ever known a person who lives life by default? Believing that every circumstance in their life has been by no “fault” of their own, that somehow they are being punished or manipulated? Having no sense of control over their future? Engrained beliefs that whatever they do will make no difference in the way they manifest their destiny? How much difference does it make? Some would say that living a life filled with intention would bring a sense of power and freedom a sense of lightness and inner peace verses living a life of default which renders us powerless and always at the control of others, including life itself.

Light does not triumph over darkness by pushing the darkness out of the way. Rather, the light comes into the darkness and transforms it with radiant, positive energy. In the same way, the obstacles in our life are not dominated by fighting them on their own terms or attempting to push them out of the way. The best way to move past a difficult situation is to transform it with positive, productive energy.

No matter how much you push against the darkness it will not go anywhere. Yet the instant you shine your light, the darkness is no more. When you fight against your problems, all it generally accomplishes is to make them stronger and give them more power. That’s certainly not what you would ever intend.

Instead, seek to transform those problems, those difficult situations, by virtue of your own positive values, efforts and energy. Focusing on what you’re working toward is far better than being obsessed with whatever you think you’re against.

Reflection and Application
Reflect on your own life for a moment and write down three times when you lived with intention and without and what were the results in each case?
What do you want that you do not have in your life right now?
What are your beliefs regarding the ability to attract or intend what you

Next week Intention Verses Default Part 2-Choosing Purpose over Indifference

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This entry was posted by Claudia on February 21st, 2008 under RYR Reinvention Team with keywords .

As the leaves on the trees begin to unfold, pink and white blossoms appear on cherry trees, and daffodils show their beautiful yellow faces, I have the urge to clean a bit more thoroughly and purge my life of things I no longer want or need.  So far I’ve eliminated four bags of books, 35 pieces of clothing, and four pair of shoes.  I’m ready to move on to my file drawers where I’ll get rid of papers that are no longer useful and to my garage where I’ll sweep away the dust and fall leaves that have accumulated.  This drive seems to be hard-wired in us because when I’m paying attention, I feel it every spring. 

An acquaintance recently talked about the cleaning done in his office in conjunction with the newly implemented LEAN process.  He and his co-workers were tasked to clean out their individual offices as well as the common spaces.  There was so much energy and excitement in his voice as he talked about the freedom he felt following the cleaning and how motivated he was to go through the same process at home.    
 
Whether it’s clearing our physical environments or getting rid of beliefs, thoughts, actions or relationships that no longer support us, there truly is a freedom, lightness, and energy that comes when we rid our lives of what’s no longer useful. 

What in your life needs to be cleaned or purged?  Stop for a moment and imagine how you’d feel after completing the process.  Do you feel lighter and more energized?  I encourage you to take advantage of spring’s natural urge for cleansing so that you too can feel lighter and more energetic.

Until next time…

Nancy

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This entry was posted by Nancy on April 19th, 2008 under RYR Reinvention Team with keywords .

Spring is on its way, so step into a new you by revamping your wardrobe. Think about the little things that make you feel good about spring. The birds are chirruping, the days become longer and the spring air is crisp. Transfer this feeling to your wardrobe, by adding accessories. A scarf around your neck or waist may give a sense of sunshine to the way your feeling or foster new ways of being creative. Add a colorful vest underneath your business jacket to remind yourself of the bright personality and forward thinking you’re capable of. Refurbish old pants by cutting them off at the bottom giving a Capri look and while you’re actively engaged in this task, think about the new found freedom you have by trimming away the old and finding a new you. Give yourself a new hair style, it may help you hold your head up high and walk with confidence. Overall, with each new season comes a new way to reinvent… you! Don’t wait until the New Year. Think about your life quarterly. Summarize, reflect and regroup.
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This entry was posted by Shirlet on March 9th, 2008 under Beauty and Style, RYR Reinvention Team, Remodel Your Reality, Self Care with keywords .

“You can’t always get what you want but if you try sometime you might find you get what you need” is how the song from the Rolling Stones goes.

How many times in your life have you hoped, wished or waited for someone to give you what you want? A birthday, Christmas, an anniversary comes along and you’ve maybe hinted a little or just waited, expecting whatever it was you wanted and boom…… disappointment.

I know I have had my share of those days in the past but I finally get it! If I want it, I need to make it very clear to who ever is in the position to help or figure it out for myself. I no longer get angry or hurt. I decide what I really want and make it happen. This year, inspired by a friend who organized her milestone birthday party, I thought what a great idea.

When my own birthday was on the horizon, I sent out 15 e-mails to friends to say, it was my birthday, I would love to celebrate by having dinner with them and the name of the restaurant where I would be and when. There were to be no gifts, no cards, no buying my dinner or drinks. If they wanted and could come great otherwise no excuses necessary. ( I should add I may have missed a name or two of women who would have come – so don’t be offended if you are reading about it now and you are one of them!) That night, I enjoyed dinner with 11 women friends. They didn’t all know each other but they had a great time. Guess what? They thought “the idea” was terrific and we need more of that. It was determined who ever had something they wanted to celebrate could just send an e-mail, at least a week in advance, pick the place or activity and who ever could make it would. Simple, easy – just show up prepared to have fun. Luckily, the next occasion is “the snow has finally melted” so we’ll be getting together soon.

The moral of the story is stop wasting time waiting for your spouse, friends or family to guess what you want only to be upset if they don’t get it right. Make requests or make plans, whichever works; emotion and drama free!

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This entry was posted by Joan on April 17th, 2008 under Relationships, Self Care with keywords .

There are times in our lives when it is extremely clear that the Divine has stepped in to assist us. Whether we see it or accept it in the current moment really does not matter because it is always there. I believe the Divine is communicating with us all the time. What matters is whether we are listening, paying attention, and are open to such communication. Yet, when we look back and review our lives there are times when it is obvious that a Higher Power was orchestrating it all; the people and events. Times we call synchronistic.

To give you an example, I was hired by my daughter’s track coach to work with the elite atheletes on their mental game. I had the opportunity to coach eight young athletes on their mental game; seven of them were sophmores in high school. I was surprised, each time, to find out they were a sophmore. I thought this was interesting and was just a bit curious about this common theme. I did not give it much thought after that. It was just one of those passing thoughts.

Driving to the first track meet it hit me; I realized what it meant for me. As I was driving my wondering thoughts came upon the young athletes and I could feel my body begin to react. I started to cry. I remembered when I was a sophmore in high school. That was the year I started to make some bad choices. In a matter of minutes I cried, remembered, forgave myself, and let it go. I was able to heal a time in my life that still had a hold on me.  I thought I was hired to support the atheletes and here I was  provided an opportunity to heal.

It amazes me to see that our connection and communication with each other is an opportunity for the Divine to speak to each of us.

 

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This entry was posted by Kath on January 14th, 2008 under RYR Reinvention Team with keywords .